{"id":861,"date":"2016-04-02T20:36:18","date_gmt":"2016-04-02T20:36:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/?p=861"},"modified":"2020-04-22T17:08:51","modified_gmt":"2020-04-22T17:08:51","slug":"things-every-kashmiri-girl-gets-to-hear-till-she-gets-rishta-fied","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/things-every-kashmiri-girl-gets-to-hear-till-she-gets-rishta-fied\/","title":{"rendered":"21 Things Every Kashmiri Girl Gets To Hear Till She Is Rishta-Fied"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When a girl is born in Kashmir, the first thing that comes to mind of our dear parents is &#8216;<em>koor che nakh walin<\/em>\u2019 (ladki ki shadi karwani ha). I mean, she&#8217;s just born and you&#8217;re worried about a thing that&#8217;s likely to take at least 20-30 years. Being a girl is no easy thing anywhere, bro, especially in Kashmir. You get to hear a lot of &#8220;baatein&#8221; since childhood. &#8216;A lot&#8217; actually doesn&#8217;t even cover it.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-rishta-nikah-doctor.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-900\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-900 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-rishta-nikah-doctor.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir girl rishta nikah doctor\" width=\"294\" height=\"294\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-rishta-nikah-doctor.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-rishta-nikah-doctor-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-rishta-nikah-doctor-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-rishta-nikah-doctor-768x768.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 294px) 100vw, 294px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Let us&nbsp;jot down a few:<\/p>\n<p>GUYS, before you start judging this article, we know you won&#8217;t get it.. So stop reading here. Girls, please continue.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1.<\/strong>Your parents keep reminding you that you&#8217;re gonna get married soon even though you&#8217;re only 15. Haina? Everything starts and ends with &#8216;<em>Pagah chui wariv ghar gasun, tait ti karkh\u00e8 yee?<\/em>&#8216; Hindi translation: kal ko doosre ke ghar jana hai wahan bhi yehi karogi? English: There&#8217;s no way to put it in English. English language doesn&#8217;t have the right emotions for it. Sorry.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-inlaws-house-rishta.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-866\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-866 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-inlaws-house-rishta.png\" alt=\"kashmir girl inlaws house rishta\" width=\"374\" height=\"374\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-inlaws-house-rishta.png 500w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-inlaws-house-rishta-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-inlaws-house-rishta-300x300.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 374px) 100vw, 374px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also Read<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/5-best-places-to-get-a-pizza-in-kashmir\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">5 Places To Get A Pizza In Kashmir<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/12-kashmiri-street-foods-you-should-have-at-least-once\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">12 Kashmiri Street Foods You Should Have At Least Once<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>2.<\/strong>Parents will relate every damn thing to your marriage and in-laws &#8216;<em>Aisa nai karo, waise nai karo, kal ko sasural wale kya bolenge<\/em>\u201d This is like routine and it doesn\u2019t stop till u get married.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/attitude-girl-desi.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-867\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-867\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/attitude-girl-desi.jpg\" alt=\"attitude girl desi\" width=\"258\" height=\"258\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/attitude-girl-desi.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/attitude-girl-desi-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/attitude-girl-desi-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/attitude-girl-desi-768x768.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 258px) 100vw, 258px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>3.<\/strong>If your parents enter your room (no doubt they&#8217;ll have difficulty finding you because you look as messy as your room \ud83d\ude1b ), bas lecture shuru..<\/p>\n<p><em>Catchphrase:<\/em> <em>Kamra saaf rakho, khud ko sambhal nahi sakti, KAL KO DOOSRON ko kya sambhalogi?!&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Arey pehle mai khud toh sambhal jawu \ud83d\ude1b<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/room-desi-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-868\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-868\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/room-desi-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"room desi rishta\" width=\"247\" height=\"247\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/room-desi-rishta.jpg 400w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/room-desi-rishta-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/room-desi-rishta-300x300.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 247px) 100vw, 247px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>4.<\/strong> Your gender is somehow made out to be handicapped. <em>You&#8217;re a &#8220;GIRL&#8221;<\/em> is your parents reason for everything.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/tum-ladki-ho.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-892\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-892 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/tum-ladki-ho.jpg\" alt=\"tum ladki ho\" width=\"285\" height=\"227\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/tum-ladki-ho.jpg 500w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/tum-ladki-ho-300x239.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 285px) 100vw, 285px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also Read:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/10-stunning-aerial-pictures-of-kashmir-that-will-leave-you-enchanted\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">10 Stunning Aerial Pictures Of Kashmir That Will Leave You Enchanted<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/top-18-things-you-should-do-in-kashmir\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Top 18 Things You Should Do In Kashmir<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>5.<\/strong> Your mum, relatives AND neighbours, basically everyone keeps telling you to learn cook food otherwise your saas will think your mum didn&#8217;t teach you well.&nbsp;Not just cook but become a masterchef in order to impress everyone.<\/p>\n<p>Catchphrase:&nbsp; &#8220;<em>Pagah karan aisi kath\u00e8..wanan maaji chi ni kihiin hechnevmicz..<\/em>&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/rishta-mom-food-funny.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-869\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-869 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/rishta-mom-food-funny.png\" alt=\"rishta mom food funny\" width=\"286\" height=\"230\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/rishta-mom-food-funny.png 599w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/rishta-mom-food-funny-300x241.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 286px) 100vw, 286px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>6.<\/strong> If by any chance you refuse to work because you&#8217;re tired, Wrong Move, darling. You&#8217;re not supposed to say NO to work because you have to work like a KHARR. Thakna manna hai!<\/p>\n<p>Catchphrase: <em>&#8220;korei gasei kamar doer aasun.. (Ladki ki peeth mazboot honi chahye meaning thakni nai chahye)&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-870\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-870 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir girl work rishta\" width=\"250\" height=\"250\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-work-rishta-1024x1024.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>7.<\/strong>Also, try watching TV while relaxing your legs instead of sitting properly. Your grandmother will come from nowhere to say, &#8220;<em>Kyah govm kya govm yi chi mandach..thav zangg\u00e8 watith sirf chakh zange wahravan<\/em>\u201d Lulz .<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmiri-grandmother.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-872\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-872 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmiri-grandmother.png\" alt=\"kashmiri grandmother\" width=\"283\" height=\"179\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmiri-grandmother.png 540w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmiri-grandmother-300x189.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 283px) 100vw, 283px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>8.<\/strong>After hearing all this if you go and sit in your room to have some &#8216;me-time&#8217;, you&#8217;ll be called names like kirayedar (paying guest)<\/p>\n<p><em>Catchphrase: &nbsp;\u201cKunizen kya chak yeti karaan..wal wass bonn..waervi ti karkhe yee..yell ni aadat aasi<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-874\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-874 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir girl alone time rishta\" width=\"296\" height=\"296\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-girl-alone-time-rishta-1024x1024.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 296px) 100vw, 296px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>9.<\/strong> Girls are supposed to eat EVERYTHING. You can\u2019t dislike anything. Say goodbye to your taste buds because \u201c<em>Winki paeth thaw hael sorui khyenas..yim nakhre che ni wairve chalaan<\/em>&#8221; (Meaning abi se aadat rakho sab khane ki ,ye nakhre sasural me nahi chalenge.)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/worms.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-875\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-875 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/worms.png\" alt=\"worms\" width=\"298\" height=\"193\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>10.<\/strong> Girls are not allowed to get injured. Not even accidentally. God forbid if you get hurt, instead of consoling all you get to hear is \u201c<em>Kore mohniw&#8217;as gasei haess karun (ladki ko khayal rakhna chahiye..Kuch ooonch neeeeech hogayi toh?!)<\/em>\u201d Han han..baki to pahad se chilang bhi mar le kya faraq padta haina<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-nikah-rishta.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-876\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-876 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-nikah-rishta.png\" alt=\"kashmir nikah rishta\" width=\"368\" height=\"245\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-nikah-rishta.png 630w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-nikah-rishta-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-nikah-rishta-177x118.png 177w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 368px) 100vw, 368px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>11.<\/strong>Most importantly, you can\u2019t get angry. You are supposed to swallow your anger even if your facial expressions don&#8217;t allow you to.<\/p>\n<p><em>Catchphrase: &#8216;czei kyazi chui sharaarat khasaan? B\u00e8 chas wanaan cze kya karakh pagah hashei?&#8217; &nbsp;(Tumko kyun jaldi naakh chadti ha..kal ko saas ko kya karogi)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-angry-girl-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-877\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-877 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-angry-girl-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir angry girl rishta\" width=\"159\" height=\"224\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-angry-girl-rishta.jpg 270w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-angry-girl-rishta-213x300.jpg 213w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 159px) 100vw, 159px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>12.<\/strong> Getting threats such as &#8220;<em>Hone do shadi tumhari, tumhe saas theek karegi<\/em>,&#8221;<em> (Just wait till you get married, your mother-in-law will set you straight)<\/em> Shadi karni hai ya kisi jailer ke yahan umar qaid hai?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/saas-kashmiri-songs.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-878\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-878 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/saas-kashmiri-songs.jpg\" alt=\"saas kashmiri songs\" width=\"333\" height=\"291\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/saas-kashmiri-songs.jpg 400w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/saas-kashmiri-songs-300x263.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also Read:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/photos-tulip-garden-flowers-srinagar-kashmir\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">13 Heartwarming Moments Perfectly Captured In Tulip Garden<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/heres-a-mouth-watering-guide-to-kashmiri-wazwan-that-will-make-you-crave-for-it\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Check Our Mouth Watering Guide To Wazwaan<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>13.<\/strong> When some relative from Videsh gets you something, you are supposed to keep it locked away. Reason- <em>ye thaw tulith, Pagah laegi paansi (Meaning abi istimal mat karo..Kal ko kaam aayega..kal chaahe tum raho ya na raho \ud83d\ude1b )<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-gifts-international-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-879\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-879 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-gifts-international-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir gifts international rishta\" width=\"369\" height=\"369\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-gifts-international-rishta.jpg 400w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-gifts-international-rishta-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-gifts-international-rishta-300x300.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 369px) 100vw, 369px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>14.<\/strong> There is a constant battle between &#8221; <em>kooor gasne zyada parnaavin<\/em>&#8221; and &#8220;<em>ladki ko independant hona chahiye aj k zamane me<\/em>&#8220;. &nbsp;They tell you to study hard, have a nice job and after working this hard&nbsp;there is STILL no guarantee for you to continue your job because<em>&nbsp;&#8220;Ye chui sorui khandaar&#8217;as taain.. naukri karke kin na, eas kya hakaw wanith<\/em>&#8230; &#8221;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/successful-women-marriage.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-908\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-908 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/successful-women-marriage.jpg\" alt=\"successful women marriage\" width=\"299\" height=\"299\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/successful-women-marriage.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/successful-women-marriage-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/successful-women-marriage-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/successful-women-marriage-768x768.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 299px) 100vw, 299px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>15.<\/strong> Having relatives look at you like a product with a list of specifications the minute you reach SHADI KI UMAR. Baal lambe hone chahiye(<em>Zyutth mass chu sajaan<\/em>), Chehre saaf karo( no pimples), healthy hojao (Dieting karo) etc<\/p>\n<p><em>Two cases arise:<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>#1 If you are a hijabi\/ abaya girl you will hear things like \u201c<em>ladka&#8217;as gasi ni hijab wajin..Az kal kus chu hijab karan, Tala tull thod ye daij kalas peth<\/em>\u201d (Meaning ladke ko hijab\/abaya wali ladki nahi chahiye, aj kal kaun hijab karta ha, uthawo yeh)<\/li>\n<li>#2 If you are a maaadern girl with jeans and all.., \u201c<em>Beta kameez shalwar me koi pic beijna aur zara dupata sar p rakhna.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Again, if you&#8217;re fat you have to undergo strict diet and become slim fit. And if you&#8217;re thin, you have to eat all the fat in the world to gain some weight. In both the cases, you have to have a zero figure.<br \/>\nJAAN HI LELO HUMARI!!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/marriage-specification-perfect-girl.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-880\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-880 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/marriage-specification-perfect-girl.jpg\" alt=\"marriage specification perfect girl\" width=\"415\" height=\"311\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/marriage-specification-perfect-girl.jpg 640w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/marriage-specification-perfect-girl-300x225.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 415px) 100vw, 415px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>16.<\/strong>&nbsp;If you say \u201cA<em>bi muje shadi nahi karni ha<\/em>\u201d, you will hear one of these things:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Jab hum tumhare jitne the humare teen bache the<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Humari umar hogayi hai..hum bimar ha..Kal kisne dekh ha..<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Abi shadi thodi karni h&#8230;abi to bas hum rishte dondege..ek do saal k baad kar lena<\/em>.(THIS IS A TRAP)<\/li>\n<li><em>Jaise Ladke line me wait kar rahe hai tumhare liye<\/em><\/li>\n<li>All of the above<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/get-married-marriage-quotes.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-881\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-881 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/get-married-marriage-quotes.png\" alt=\"get married marriage quotes\" width=\"486\" height=\"207\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/get-married-marriage-quotes.png 610w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/get-married-marriage-quotes-300x128.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 486px) 100vw, 486px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<strong>17<\/strong>. You have to dress up nicely like a princess for every wedding, birthday, family dinners and even funerals because your potential saaas might be present there. All eyes should be starring at you.You have to be tip-top looking even when going to see a doctor.<\/p>\n<p>Catchphrase:<em> &#8220;Ye kya loguth..maecz hish chakh gamicz..gass laag kahn jaan pahan suit&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/princess-rishta-girl-wedding.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-882\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-882 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/princess-rishta-girl-wedding.jpg\" alt=\"princess rishta girl wedding\" width=\"320\" height=\"213\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/princess-rishta-girl-wedding.jpg 320w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/princess-rishta-girl-wedding-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/princess-rishta-girl-wedding-177x118.jpg 177w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 320px) 100vw, 320px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also Read:<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/top-5-bridal-makeup-artists-in-kashmir\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Top 5 Bridal Makeup Artists In Kashmir<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>18.<\/strong> And when Rishta&nbsp;phase actually starts, all manzimyors are fond of getting a glance of the bride to be. You are supposed to present yourself in front of manzimyor with your best possible manners. And trust me, you hate this moment.<\/p>\n<p><em>Catchphrase:&nbsp;&#8220;B\u00e8 wichan koor&#8221; .<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-manzimyor-middleman-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-883\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-883 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-manzimyor-middleman-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir manzimyor middleman rishta\" width=\"292\" height=\"292\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-manzimyor-middleman-rishta.jpg 400w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-manzimyor-middleman-rishta-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-manzimyor-middleman-rishta-300x300.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 292px) 100vw, 292px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Also Read:<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/7-must-visit-cafes-in-kashmir\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">7 Amazing Cafes You Must Visit In Kashmir<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>19.<\/strong> Being told you have to &#8220;<em><strong>compromise<\/strong><\/em>&#8221; in life because &#8220;<em>che chakh koor<\/em>&#8220;. All compromises are saved for the women folk. &#8220;<em>Compromise karna padta ha..sab kuch nahi milta, yem khoth kya gos aasun wain<\/em>&#8221; make rounds during this time . Also, there is no such thing as compatibility in Kashmir. Only things that matters are g<em>har acha ha, ladka shareef ha, kamata acha ha, etc<\/em>, Nothing else.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-884\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-884 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta.jpg\" alt=\"kashmir marriage compatibility rishta\" width=\"267\" height=\"267\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/kashmir-marriage-compatibility-rishta-1024x1024.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 267px) 100vw, 267px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>20.<\/strong> And if you reject a few guys, everyone starts doubting you and the endless interrogation begins. <em>&#8220;Kanh ma chu nazri tal? Agar koi hai toh bolo&#8221;.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/mother-dialogues-rishta-bf.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-885\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-885 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/mother-dialogues-rishta-bf.jpg\" alt=\"mother-dialogues-rishta-bf\" width=\"338\" height=\"236\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/mother-dialogues-rishta-bf.jpg 540w, https:\/\/dialkashmir.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/mother-dialogues-rishta-bf-300x209.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 338px) 100vw, 338px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>21.<\/em><\/strong> Last&nbsp;but not the least,&nbsp;the universal dialogue that goes with everything is,&#8221;Zy<em>ada hi nakhre hue hai..sarr pe chade ho<\/em>&#8221; This is the kind of dialogue that doesn&#8217;t even require any particular situation. You hear it all the time so once said, it goes in one ear and out the window.<\/p>\n<p>No matter what, our parents love us the most and they have a unique way of showing this by saying &#8220;<em>khandar karev na pata yeeevi mal maji hinz qadar<\/em>&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Sorry sisters, dukhti rag p hath rakh diya but if you relate, do share on your Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp.<\/p>\n<p>In Kashmir, elders bless you by saying &#8216;<em>Khudai soznev rutt ghar\u00e8, bajah karnev myon Parwardigaar, rutt khareedar soznav<\/em>&#8216; (Meaning May God bless you with a nice husband and family)&nbsp;and we pray so too. God bless!<\/p>\n<p>Check out <a href=\"http:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">wedding vendors in Kashmir<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When a girl is born in Kashmir, the first thing that comes to mind of our dear parents is &#8216;koor che nakh walin\u2019 (ladki ki shadi karwani ha). I mean, she&#8217;s just born and you&#8217;re worried about a thing that&#8217;s likely to take at least 20-30 years. 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